The Finnish rule "Live and let others live", see http://finnishskills.blogspot.fi/2012/10/live-and-let-others-live.html , means roughly that one is allowed to live freely and be selfish but not to disturb the lives of others (except fairly to prevent them from disturbing unfairly the lives of others). It gives the individuals in a society as much freedom as it is theoretically possible to give all fairly, i.e. one can live completely freely but not disturb the lives of others, which latter is needed for the freedom of others and for good life in the society.
Such almost total freedom may sound like a mess that is difficult to handle, but it aren't. If people can choose freely the main elements in their lives, they are satisfied with such life and not continually running away or making things in disguise. Typically people in the capital district of Finland where this rule was followed, had one job that they had chosen, that they happaned to like, so they always went to the same job and liked that. But those younger generation people who had not had the possibility to choose themselves, were constantly searching for new better alternatives. In addition the people had maybe two or three hobbies that they had chosen conpletely freely and not for some social reason, and so they liked their hobbies and spent free time in them or at home. In addition they did things generally considered good in the society, like going for a holiday trip countryside in the summer. Sometimes closest relationships in addition demanded them along to some hobby of their, like if they needed a car. But that is quite clearly it all, not difficult to handle. But those who did not follow the rule "Live and let others live" were more in arguments and caused more like a mess.